Different parenting styles, different outlooks, different shades, different perspectives but deep inside all that mothers have is deep love for their child! Here I define the different kinds of moms –
Socially active mom gets her dose of energy by meeting new people and striking new friendships. Leave her in a room full of strangers and she will develop a bond instantly. She is the one who initiates Whatsapp groups and get together plans with fellow mommies. She loves to be socially active and her child mostly has a lot of friends to hang out with.
THE PERFECTIONIST MOM
Class assignment, check. Evening park time, check. Dinner at 8, check. The perfectionist mom will ensure that no vacations, family commitments ever mess around with her kid’s routine. Give her a class assignment and in all probability, her child will carry the most comprehensive and creative report to the school. Her kid will almost always be the one with the neatest assignments and best fancy dress ideas.
‘MY KID IS THE BEST’ MOM
Every mother loves her child but this mom type is different. For the sake of modesty, you might not turn all your conversations to your child but this mom does exactly that! Her whole life revolves around ‘talking about the kid’. She likes flaunting her child’s every little achievement to whoever she can find worth talking. Be it in the park, her office, the child’s school and even in family. She always has to be the “One-Up” Mom. So, you say your kids can count to ten? Hers can count to a thousand. Your child just started saying ‘mumma’? Her child did that coming out of the womb.
You will spot her in a business suit mostly in a rush to pick and drop the kids. She is managing both aspects (home and office) beautifully. Sometimes she may feel tempted to stay and chat with other moms but is getting late for a meeting. She is trying her best and at times her mother’s guilt is a notch higher than other moms.
‘I AM NOT JUST A MOM’ MOM
She has kids but they do not define her. It may be her kid’s exam the next day but if she has a friend’s party to attend, she will rarely cancel her plans. She often initiates all girls’ trips and loves being an individual before being a mom. She needs her space. Her kids are likely to get potty trained first and get independent faster than others.
Be it jam, pasta, cupcakes or idlis – she is the kind of mommy who makes everything at home. While you make your pancakes using readymade pancake mix, she makes it right from scratch. She doesn’t mind spending hours in the kitchen and her kids have the fanciest tiffin in the whole class. Your own kid may come to you and request for the yummy snack made by masterchef mom!
Is that a scratch? Is he being bullied? Why is he so quiet today? Welcome to the world of the ever worrying mom. She wants to know every single detail of her child. She is also the mom who will take the maximum time at every PTM probing the teacher about her child and his performance. You will hardly get to know her because she is too busy hovering over her child’s every step to chat.
Enter a kids’ party and you will find a mommy-daughter or mommy-son duo dressed impeccably. She creates a unique style for herself as well as the child. From hairstyle, clothes, shoes to accessories, everything is in sync. Her fashion style can put anyone to shame! Even at school pickups and drops, she is easily spotted by her perfect hair and flawless makeup.
‘DON’T JINX IT’ MOM
Her kid may be doing extremely well in the class but she will always tell you a different story. If you are among the lucky few, she may tell you that her kid stood first in the class- but it is no big deal, because right after that she will list at least ten shortcomings of her child – he doesn’t make friends, she doesn’t eat, the teacher often complains and the list goes on. This mom can never stand the thought of others imagining that her child is the best, lest you jinx that!
She has older children but this last one was a delightful surprise. She has lots of great advice, because she’s been through it all. She knows what is important and can be a great resource. She knows when to give advice and when to keep her mouth closed. But you may have to chase her persistently for she is always busy and has a hectic social calendar. Juggling time between multiple kids she probably has no time to join the parties, play dates or let alone exchange a word with you.
This mom category is totally inspired by my own mom! She can update her Facebook profile picture while cooking dinner and chat on whatsapp while feeding the baby. She can multitask and become a driver, chef, nanny, manager, fashion advisor or just about anything else when required. She can step into any role when required and I’m hoping to soon locate the super mom cape hidden in her wardrobe one of these days!
Each of us as moms would rarely fit ourselves into only one category. We do play these different types or don different hats at various points in time or different phases of our child(ren)’s lives. But it is fun knowing which characteristics dominate our personality. No matter what type or characteristic that is, whether we flaunt it or keep it to ourselves, for our child(ren) we will always be their MOM – which not surprisingly – spelt upside down is WOW!!!
This article was first published on Zen Parent.